I Want to Trust You, but I Don't Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment by Lysa TerKeurst - Nelson Books | Thomas Nelson

I Want to Trust You, but I Don't Moving Forward When You’re Skeptical of Others, Afraid of What God Will Allow, and Doubtful of Your Own Discernment  by Lysa TerKeurst - Nelson Books | Thomas Nelson

Pub Date Oct 08 2024 

Do you have trust issues? or Do you have a lot of people who have not been loyal to you? I think this book offers interesting things to think about, not just in a marriage/couple but in relationships in general, even when she focuses on her marriage example/pain.

This is an objective, highly practical manual on how to untangle past relational trauma from your present reality.  Writing in the wake of her high-profile divorce, multiple shattered relationships, and the physical toll of severe stress, TerKeurst addresses a crucial problem: how past betrayals trick us into thinking hyper-vigilance and skepticism are forms of "wisdom". It serves as a direct, structural follow-up to her previous work, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes, shifting the focus from ending toxic patterns to safely re-entering community.

Rather than relying on vague encouragement, TerKeurst structures her framework around concrete psychological and scriptural checkpoints:

• The Trauma Blueprint: The book objectively examines the physical and neurological impact of betrayal, detailing how a brain trapped in "fight, flight, or freeze" struggles to interpret social cues accurately. 
• The 11 Relational Red Flags: TerKeurst provides a structured checklist to help readers objectively evaluate whether their current unease is caused by a real threat or an old trigger. 
• Separating Forgiveness from Rebuilding: A core thesis is that forgiveness can be given instantly to free your own heart, but trust is an entirely separate asset that must be earned incrementally over time through consistent behavior. 

This book is an essential, step-by-step tool for anyone whose body and mind are tired from relational battles and who fears that opening up again will only lead to more pain. It brilliantly redirects the goal away from finding "perfect" people and toward building internal stability through God.

Description

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

Learn how to handle your skepticism and distrust so you can heal from past betrayals and move forward with strength and resilience.

Trust is the oxygen of all human relationships. But it's also what trips you up after you've been burned. Maybe a friend constantly lets you down. A leader or organization you respect turns out to be different than they portray themselves to be. A spouse cheats on you. A family member betrays you. You're exhausted by other people's choices and starting to question your own discernment. And you're wondering, If God let this happen, can he even be trusted? 

How can you live well and step into the future when you keep stumbling over trust issues? Lysa TerKeurst says it's not simply about finding better people to walk with. It's about developing the stability you long for within yourself and with God, so you don't become cynical and carry a broken belief system into every new relationship. In I Want to Trust You, But I Don't, Lysa shows you how to:

• Identify which of the eleven relational red flags are stirring up distrust, so you can pinpoint why you're feeling uneasy
• Stop having more faith in your fears coming true than God coming through for you by asking crucial "what if" questions to better process your doubts
• Recognize when a fractured relationship can be repaired by considering a reasonable list of characteristics necessary for rebuilding trust
• Understand the physical, emotional, and neurological impact of the betrayals you've experienced and start healing from the inside out

 

In a world where so many things feel alarming, this book will give you a peace that isn't dependent on unpredictable people, circumstances, and experiences. Instead, it offers practical and biblical ways to make real progress toward healthier perspectives, relationships, and a future you can authentically look forward to.

Available Editions

EDITION	Other Format
ISBN	9781400211821
PRICE	$29.99 (USD)
PAGES	256