pub date: 19 Jan 2021
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He leído varios libros para esposas de pastor (que por extrañas y diferentes razones me han regalado a través de los años), y como los he disfrutado, leí este libro también. Lo leí también porque pensé que jme sería útil ya que continuamente estoy en contacto con esposas de Pastor y uno de mis deseos es serles de bendición, apoyo y soporte a su vida. De este libro tomé algunos puntos como referencia para compartir en reuniones mensuales que tenemos o pláticas informales una a una. Encontré muchas citas sabias y párrafos que me hicieron pensar mucho, reflejan los tantos años de experiencia de la autora y su esposo, no es precisamente lo que tenía en mente que encontraría de contenido, pero siempre es interesante escuchar la escuela de vida de personas como ellos, para quedarse con todo lo bueno. Sentí que compartió mucho sobre matrimonio, desde su particular posición. Es inegable el trabajo que cualquier Pastor y su esposa hacen para la iglesia, leer sobre sus percepciones y luchas te ayuda a tener más empatía y orar más intencionalmente por ellas.
I have read several books for pastor's wives (which for strange and different reasons have been gifted to me over the years), and since I have enjoyed them, I read this book as well. I also read it because I thought it would be useful to me since I am continually in contact with Pastor' wives and one of my wishes is to be a blessing, support, and support in their life. From this book, I took some points as a reference to share in monthly meetings that we have or informal talks one by one. I found many wise quotes and paragraphs that made me think a lot, they reflect the many years of experience of the author and her husband, it is not exactly what I had in mind that I would find content, but it is always interesting to hear the school of life of people like them, to keep all the good stuff. I felt that he shared a lot about marriage, from his particular position. The work that any Pastor and his wife do for the church is undeniable, reading about their perceptions and struggles helps you to have more empathy and pray more intentionally for them.
I have read several books for pastor's wives (which for strange and different reasons have been gifted to me over the years), and since I have enjoyed them, I read this book as well. I also read it because I thought it would be useful to me since I am continually in contact with Pastor' wives and one of my wishes is to be a blessing, support, and support in their life. From this book, I took some points as a reference to share in monthly meetings that we have or informal talks one by one. I found many wise quotes and paragraphs that made me think a lot, they reflect the many years of experience of the author and her husband, it is not exactly what I had in mind that I would find content, but it is always interesting to hear the school of life of people like them, to keep all the good stuff. I felt that he shared a lot about marriage, from his particular position. The work that any Pastor and his wife do for the church is undeniable, reading about their perceptions and struggles helps you to have more empathy and pray more intentionally for them.
He aquí algunas frases para pensar, para que te des cuenta un poco del estilo y un poco de lo que trata:
- An unsung hero is defined as “one who does great deeds but receives little or no recognition for them.” It’s an accurate description of a pastor’s wife, isn’t it? She pours out her life not only for her family but also, with her husband, for her church. She is not a life-depleting person but wonderfully life-enriching to all around. The world is more alive because she is alive. She is like Christ. Indeed, she is from Christ. (en lo personal no creo que ningún creyente sea "héroe", solo hay uno para mi, pero supongo que esto es una expresión y cuestión cultural)
- You are not always thanked as you deserve to be. So as you open this book, let me be the first to say thank you! Thank you for putting Christ first. Thank you for loving your pastor husband. Thank you for believing, for praying, for serving. We all owe you a great debt of gratitude. (Esta parte tampoco creo que sea muy como una deuda o como tipo pago el agradecimiento, más bien es un honor el agradecer y honrar su labor).
- Men interpret advice as lack of approval. And your husband will get plenty of advice from others— his coworkers, his congregants, his family, even his Twitter followers! He needs to know you are on his side, that he’s not standing alone. Let others try to improve him. In your eyes he needs to be okay. He is most likely all too aware of his own shortcomings anyway.
- “Darling, I need to know there is one person in this messy world who isn’t trying to change me, who really likes me for who I am, even with my imperfections— someone willing to let the Holy Spirit be the main source of change in my life. Would you be willing to be that person for me?”
- you will have the glorious joy of seeing your pastor grow through the power of the Holy Spirit rather than the pain of a nagging wife.
- Marriage makes two people together what they could never be alone.
- embracing the biblical reality that marriage is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. That commitment means a willingness to sometimes be unhappy. And in that unhappiness you must guard your spirit (Malachi 2: 15). Unhappiness is not the worst experience in a marriage— unfaithfulness is.
- your marriage will be only as happy and satisfying and passionate as your relationship with Christ is. In the hurts and disappointments of life, is Jesus enough, or are you looking to something else to save you from your loneliness or sadness or insecurity?
- At times your love may be soured by the inevitable disappointments of living as one flesh with another human being. When that happens, look ahead to your heavenly husband, the lover of your soul, who loves you completely even as you are.
- A woman is most beautiful when she knows she is loved. Your femininity is most radiant, nurturing, gracious, and othercentered when you know you are loved. Let God make you, through his tender and intimate love, the beautiful woman he created you to be.
- Ministry is all about dying— to our own rights, to our desires for prestige or financial gain, to our own selfprotection— and learning to say with Paul, “For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain” (Philippians 1: 21).
- let’s be wise in how we live out the deaths of gospel ministry. There is a difference between killing yourself and dying to yourself ! (...) What is killing you these days? What is killing your husband? What drains you, sucking the life out of you? As best you can, choose which situations you will allow to become emergencies. Coach yourself to relax. Choose delays, slow routes, a longer checkout line at the market. Don’t waste your adrenalin. You have a limited amount of emotional and psychological energy. Use it wisely.
- Do not be a loner in ministry. Isolation, as well as fatigue, can contribute to depression. Ask God for another ministry couple with whom you can talk things through. Commit to meeting on a regular basis— weekly, or monthly, or quarterly. Walk in the light together (1 John 1: 7), speaking the truth in love to each other, which “when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love” (Ephesians 4: 16).
- Do what you can, and then give yourself grace when you fail.
- The critics always have opinions about everything, opinions they feel obliged to tell you, sometimes in front of your children. Help your child to see that any opinion should be respectfully listened to and then judged on the basis of Scripture. Model this for them when you or your husband is criticized. Show your children how you can ask yourself, “Would it please God (Ephesians 5: 10) for me to take this criticism to heart, to repent and change? Or is the criticism just an opportunity for this antagonist to vent a personal judgment on a sermon preached or a decision made that he or she disagrees with?” Protect your child from the critics by teaching them how to deal with criticism in a Christlike manner. Model how to listen respectfully, bring it to Jesus, and then decide how to respond. The characters are those few people who don’t understand how to build safe and relaxed relationships with other people. For whatever reason— whether background or upbringing, psychological or emotional difficulties, physical or spiritual afflictions— these are people who don’t always make sense to your child. They may be sincere, Bible-believing, Jesus-loving people who truly don’t process reality in a normal, reasonable way. Your child will need your advocacy here. Your family lives a very public life, which may feel like an invitation to some people to come in too close to your child. Do not allow it. Protect your child from any characters in your congregation by being vigilant to validate your child’s natural distrust— or even fear— of some adults. Teach him that while he must be courteous, he does not need to engage with an adult who makes him feel uncomfortable. He can politely excuse himself and come find you.
- You protect your child by letting him know, through both your words and your actions, that he always comes before church members.
- Don’t worry if your kids aren’t perfect— just try to protect them from those who wish they were!
- Whatever you do, open your heart anew to Christ. Confess any boredom or indifference. Ask, seek, and knock, and he promises to answer and open a way for you to receive good gifts from his heavenly Father (Matthew 7: 7– 11).
- Dear Pastor, Your wife may be struggling spiritually but is afraid to talk to anyone about it— maybe even you. Gently ask her how she is doing way down deep in her soul. Does she feel the loving nearness of her heavenly Father? Most of her friends will assume that she is a spiritual giant because she’s married to you! How can you help her draw nearer to Christ? Can you give her time away from the kids so she can slip away to meet with her Lord? Maybe she would enjoy getting together with you once a week for Bible reading or prayer. Or how about freeing her for a weekend away for spiritual refreshment while you manage the homefront? Care for your wife as you do your f lock. She needs the Lord too. That we may present everyone mature in Christ, Jani
Description
Ministry is hard. And every ministry wife needs—and deserves—encouragement.
A woman marries a man, not his ministry. But all too often her husband’s calling complicates their life together. What if ministry life isn’t what she bargained for? What happens when her children make mistakes? How does she deal with church gossip, or even slander?
As a pastor’s wife of almost fifty years, Jani Ortlund addresses these questions, along with many others, as she offers encouragement and guidance to ministry wives. Jani reminds readers that God works out his delightfully good purposes in and through their sacrifices.
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