Pub Date 04 Jun 2019
#TheDiyGuideToBuildingAfamilyThatLasts
Sometimes people is more focused on how a home looks and not how it feels, I want to do it, to try to have a home with peace. Every family needs to forgive, trust, have compassion, and love. Gary Chapman is a favorite, everyone knows him because he tought us about the 5 love languages. It is so amazing to me to realize my children are going to remember certain things because we create or improve things at home. May God help us. Topics covered include: Kindness, Gratitude, Love, Compromise, Forgiveness, Communication, Trust, Compassion, and Patience. Tools like Quizzes are provided at the end of the book wich i find helpful to implement changes at home. It is a very very practical book. Chapters include useful sections:Home Improvement Goal (what behaviour do you want to get rid of)
Home Improvement Tool (replace that behaviour with this one)
Drawing Up the Plans (what do you want to see changed/improved)
Do-It-Yourself (modeling the behaviour you want to see exhibited)
All in Budget (all family members must be committed)
Sweat Equity (the effort and time it will take to implement change)
Big Reveal (when it will be evident what you’ve been working on is working)
Home Improvement Goal (what behaviour do you want to get rid of)
Home Improvement Tool (replace that behaviour with this one)
Drawing Up the Plans (what do you want to see changed/improved)
Do-It-Yourself (modeling the behaviour you want to see exhibited)
All in Budget (all family members must be committed)
Sweat Equity (the effort and time it will take to implement change)
Big Reveal (when it will be evident what you’ve been working on is working)
Description
Is it really possible to have the home life you want with the people you love?
The most exciting part of any home improvement show is the big reveal—that moment when a drab, run-down house becomes a breathtaking new home. What if you could have that with your home life?
That’s what the DIY Guide is all about. In it, you’ll find practical tools for transforming your home life and dramatically improving your family’s culture from Shannon Warden and Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the New York Times #1 Bestseller The 5 Love Languages®. Each chapter teaches you a new home life skill and pairs it with a home improvement metaphor that makes it fun and easy to remember.
You can’t hire a contractor for this work, but if you’re willing to put in the sweat equity (hard work), you’ll see results fast. Don’t wait any longer. Get started today and give your relational space the renovations it deserves.
Member Reviews
Lee-Ann B, ReviewerThis is an easy to follow guide for parents who are looking to implement spiritual concepts into their daily family life, mimicking Do It Yourself home renovation programs for any easy to understand layout or map for each discipline. Both authors have extensive careers in counseling and have drawn the similarity of literal home improvement to a transformation of your home life. Each chapter is broken up into sections: - Home Improvement Goal (what behaviour do you want to get rid of) - Home Improvement Tool (replace that behaviour with this one) - Drawing Up the Plans (what do you want to see changed/improved) - Do-It-Yourself (modeling the behaviour you want to see exhibited) - All in Budget (all family members must be committed) - Sweat Equity (the effort and time it will take to implement change) - Big Reveal (when it will be evident what you’ve been working on is working) Topics covered include: Kindness, Gratitude, Love, Compromise, Forgiveness, Communication, Trust, Compassion, and Patience. Tools/Quizzes are provided at the back of the book to help parents implement the topics at home. Some of the material that is touched on has been covered in more detail in other books written by Gary Chapman, so it almost felt like a review lesson for me since I’ve read a few of his other published works. It’s an easy read, and more of a “toolbox” of items rather than a “how to” type of book, meaning you have to figure out how to implement what’s being written into your own family dynamic. Examples of parents struggling with the topic being covered in the individual chapters are from real life counseling sessions, or experiences from the authors themselves. There wasn’t anything that jumped off the page at me as to something that was sensational or revolutionary that I could implement into my own parenting practices; though it was helpful to have everything neatly packaged into the groupings as mentioned above. I received an ecopy from the publisher through NetGalley. All opinions expressed are my own. |
Michael E, ReviewerSo I was attracted to this book because of one of the authors – Gary Chapman. I didn’t know what to expect when I started reading it. Many DIY books seem to be ‘this worked for me so it should work for you’ and I don’t find that realistic. In this book the authors describe different practices that can be tried to help shape character in the home. There are no promises or guarantees, just opportunities to invest in your family. As a pastor I’m a big fan of Mark Holmen’s “Faith at Home” movement which focusses on nurturing faith in the home. One of the practices I have as a part of that is providing free resources to families to help them nurture faith in the home. I could very much see this book being one of the resources I would provide to families to help them. This book is very well rooted in good practices and I believe recognizes that change takes hard work. This book truly though helps move you forward. The big question I believe is – would I do any of these things? Well the answer is yes… and to back it up I actually was quite taken with some of the ideas I’m starting with one of them as I felt it would help bring more gratitude into our home and nurture more kindness as well. I can’t report the results yet, but in reality when shaping character anything that moves you and your family in the right direction is a win. I see this book as a great resource for families… and something that will help them get the win. |
Faith H, ReviewerI was really hoping to love this one, as I admire Gary Chapman's work and loved the idea of A the DIY parallel. But ultimately it came across as a little gimicky and full of advice that has been expressed much better in Chapman's other books. |
Ana D, Educator3.5 stars While I appreciated the topic and the content, the on-going analogy of physical home improvement to emotional and social family structure was a little much (cheesy)for me. Great tips for anyone wanting to assess their families current state and take action to improve it! |
Jennifer O, ReviewerI have found that anything by Gary Chapmanis uplifting and encouraging, and this book is no exception. The tone of this book is a bit different, in that it is written by two authors, so the voice changes periodically. However, this is not distracting. There is so much practical, helpful advice in this book, and I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to strengthen and improve the relationships within their family. Thank you to the publisher, who provided me with a free electronic copy of the book. I was not required to write a review. These opinions are my own. |
Laura L, ReviewerFans of DIY who want to build a healthy family will find Gary Chapman and Shannon Warden's book, "The DIY Guide to Building a Family That Lasts" a clever way to meld the two together. Each chapter focuses on areas parents can invest time in to build healthier families that last, including kindness, gratitude, forgiveness, communication, trust, patience and fun, along with other relevant topics. Drawing from the DIY theme, each chapter cleverly includes these sections, : - an introduction to the topic - Drawing Up the Plans, which helps readers to identify what they want with regard to the chapter's topic - Do-It-Yourself, which helps readers first address the topic in their own life before building it into the family - All-in-Budget, which helps readers get buy-in from the entire family - Sweat Equity, which gives readers tips for building that character trait into their family - Big Reveal, which gives readers an idea of how to know when they've arrived at the goal - Talk It Over, which provides thought-provoking questions to help help readers internalize and process the material, either individually or with others. I whole-heartedly enjoyed this book. It provides practical and doable steps for families that want to grow but just need a little help knowing how. It's not something to rush into and think you can do everything in the book in one week or even in a month. But, if you take it slowly and actually follow through, one chapter and one topic at a time, maybe even taking a month to work on that one area, you'll find that over the course of time, you'll see true change in your family, helping you build a lasting family with strong connections. Note: I received a copy of this book in exchange for an honest review. The opinions expressed are my own. |
Lindsey C, ReviewerGary Chapman is a longtime favorite for me. I’ve read most of his books and this one is great, like all the others. Full of wisdom and so many great things to implement in my family |
Jess B, ReviewerWhat I love about this book is that there are 12 steps that are practical & easy. Some of the topics include forgiveness, trust, compassion, & love. The information is great for a ‘healthy’ family but also for a family that is ‘broken’ and hurting. I can’t wait to put these tools in to practice! |
